Welcome to your Love quiz Imagine that you are walking in the parking lot of a grocery store and notice an elderly man struggling to put his grocery bags in his car. What would you do? Nothing, I don’t want to offend him Go over and ask if he wants help Look to see if someone is around to help him Help him immediately without even asking Imagine that you are the member of a church and your pastor asks you if you would be willing to be “on call” three nights a week in case another member of the church has an emergency. What would you do? Say you are 100% ready and willing to help out Consult with my family and friends before deciding Ask if I could do just one or two nights a week Make up an excuse why I couldn’t do this. Imagine that while at work you are in a meeting with 10 other people talking about some new ideas for the office. What might you do? Say nothing Give your opinion after some brief thought Say whatever comes to your mind Tell others what the correct ideas should be You have promised your neighbors to recruit some people to help clean up a playground by a certain date. What would you do? The best I could Not take the deadline as an exact date Make sure I did what I said I would do It’s volunteer work so I would be flexible Many people keep their house extremely clean and neat while others are messier. Which option best describes you? Everything in my house is always in order at all times Only when other people come over will I clean and put things in place My house is messy most of the time and I am OK with that Most of the time my house is in order A youngster in the neighborhood is trying to build a house for his dog and is having a difficult time of it. What would you do? Tell him it is a tough job and he should get help Tell him to forget it; it’s too much work for him Encourage him to stick with it Step in and build it for him Imagine that a close friend of yours asks your advice about whether or not she should get married to the man she is currently dating. What would you do? Listen and then offer your advice Listen, but just be supportive and don’t give any advice Suggest that she discuss this with a counselor or pastor Give your advice without needing to hear much about the situation Think about moments in your life when someone has an emotional expression on their face, but has yet to tell you what they are feeling. In these situations, you are usually able to: Have a pretty good guess what they are feeling Not know what they are feeling until they tell me Most often think they are feeling something they are not I never think about it Your child is having trouble with another student at school. She is upset and wants to share her feelings with you. What would you do? Try to cheer her up Listen and comfort her Avoid the situation Tell her to focus on the solving the problem not the feelings Think about times in your life where you have attended an event that starts at a certain time. Which of these descriptions best fits your experience? I always get to the event on time, but usually after rushing to make it I almost always show up late I always get to the event on time without feeling rushed About half of the time I am late A family member tells you something in confidence. You would like to let others know what was said. What would you do? Share it with only a few people Drop hints so others will ask you about it Tell the family member it is unfair to put pressure on you to keep quiet Tell no one Imagine that you are on a television game show and you are part of a team given the task of solving a big puzzle that requires creativity and resourcefulness. What kind of team member might you be? The leader; you are great at coming up with ideas An involved helper, you might be able to add something useful A helper that does only what the leader suggests Someone who tries to stay completely on the sidelines Imagine you had a friend who makes jewelry but can never sell any of it at craft shows. She says she would rather have unique designs than copy what sells. Your reaction might be: She should find something else to do I would rather sell it than do my own designs Her jewelry is probably not very well done I agree that being unique is most important You have a friend who loves dogs. She travels great distances to dog shows and spends all her time training dogs and volunteering at a dog shelter. When you meet all she wants to talk about is dogs. You might feel: Annoyed that that’s all she wants to do I admire her passion I should avoid her I don’t care about dogs You have previously agreed to help a friend move his household belongings, but at the last minute your boss wants you to do extra work that weekend. You can’t do both. What would you do? Honor the promise to your friend and explain it to the boss Explain to your friend that you can’t help him because of work Tell your boss you are sick and can’t work Tell your friend you are sick and can’t help him Your adult son has had a difficult time in life. He has been in and out of trouble with the law. You are about to meet with him for the first time in some time. What would you do? Be careful that he does not get you in trouble Tell him you are committed to him and his best interests Suggest he talk to someone else Express anger at all he has put you through Sometimes we describe others as affectionate, meaning that they freely express their devotion and love to those around them. How much do you feel that you express affection? I am like most people, fairly average Very little, I am not a “touchy-feely” type of person I express affection with those close to me I express a lot of affection with all the people in my life. Imagine that a new person starts working at your job. How might you react to this person? Let them have their space Talk with other co-workers about what they think about the person On the first day introduce myself and go out of my way to get to know them After a few days introduce myself and get to know them over time. Sometimes we describe others as loving, meaning that the show a great deal of tenderness and affection to others. How well do you feel this applies to you? A great deal, being a loving person is extremely important to me Being a loving person is important to me, but not critical I am a loving person in some situations but not others It is not important to me to be a loving person Imagine that a close member of your family has a serious accident, and while he is recovering this person asks you to take care of his two children. How might you react to this? Accept the task, but with fear and anxiety Accept the task, treating it like a challenge See if there is someone else who can do it Easily accept the task; you are used to taking care of others. Kindness quiz